If you have several kids, you may be concerned about making your kids feel special, or how to manage spending time alone with each of them.
We have eight kids and I found that I could really get uptight trying to plan time alone with each of them, and then actually follow through on doing what was planned.
My husband and I decided it was more important to regularly focus on making each of them feel special.
At times that would involve one-on-one time, but honestly, my kids would be just as excited if my husband took two or three of them together to do something special.
It’s also important to realize that often the unplanned for one-on-one times are the best! For example, a e time when one of your kids is struggling with something, and you stop what you are doing to sit down and listen to them.
By doing that you are showing them they are important to you, and you are there when they need you. It’s the same when your kids are excited about something. That is a wonderful opportunity for you to stop and show excitement as you listen to them share with you.
Here are some ideas to help you:
1. Write your kids notes.
It only takes a couple of minutes, and it’s amazing how they respond! They love notes of praise and encouragement, or just “I love you!” notes.
2. When you have to discipline one of your kids, take time afterwards to make them feel special.
Often, after a time of discipline or correction, my kids will open up and talk and we have a very special time. It’s one of those things that can’t be planned, but is a result of me showing a willingness to listen and take time.
3. Often when I go to the store, I’ll take one of the kids along. (My husband does this also)
They enjoy our “date”, and feel very special. Usually we’ll get a little treat and chat while we enjoy it.
4. Make bedtime special.
Bedtime can be rather rather hectic when you have several kids and ages to get tucked in at night. However, at times I would sense a need in one of the kids to have just a little extra attention, and if the baby was asleep, I would sit and talk or listen to that one. Those special unplanned times often led to very good teaching conversations.
5. Have a kitchen helper each day.
When the kids were younger, this is one thing I did plan, and they loved it!
Each day they took turns being my kitchen helper. The “helper” set the table, helped me prepare the meals, and helped me clean up. During this time of course, we get to talk, laugh, sing, etc. Then my helper got to stay up for thirty minutes after the other kids went to bed and do something special with Mom (or Dad). Often it was rocking them (yes, my five and seven year olds still asked for this!), reading to them, or playing a game.
What would you add to this list? Share some things you do to make your kids feel special!