One of the most important things you can do as a parent is show your kids you love them.
Maybe you think that your kids know you love them because you feed them, and take care of them everyday. However, that’s not enough! All of us, including our kids, feel really good when someone intentionally shows us that they love us.
Here are 8 real ways to show your kids you love them:
1. Teach them about God’s love.
The most important thing you can do as a parent is point your children to God, and teach them to know Him and His Word. His love is the greatest love they will ever know.
2. Show affection physically.
Don’t let a day go by without showing your kids some physical affection. You should hug them when they come and go, at bedtime, and at random times during the day. Hold their hand when they are walking with you, or put your arm around them when you are reading to them, etc. Even when they become teens, keep giving them hugs.
3. Show your love by what you say.
Don’t assume that your kids KNOW you love them. Make it a point to tell them often! This is especially important after there has been a time of correction or discipline. Let them know you still love them regardless of what they may have done wrong.
Use words of affection often. (sweetie, honey, sugar plum, etc.)
4. Saying yes whenever you can.
I don’t know about you, but I often tend to say no to simple requests from the kids, often for no reason other than it might be a little inconvenient for me, or it’s just something I don’t want to do at the time. (like play a game, or read them a book.) Sometimes it could even be that I’m just not in the best mood. That’s really not fair to the kids!
Many of the things that our kids ask are little things, but they mean so much to them. I encourage you to try to just say yes more often!
5. Show your love by special treats or surprises.
Do special little things now and then for your kids that lets them know you are thinking about them, and love them.
For example, bring a child their favorite candy bar and surprise them with it, or take one of them out for their favorite ice cream, just because.
6. Show love by giving your time and attention.
Nothing says “I love you” more than someone stopping what they are doing to listen to you, or to do something with you.
Be sure to look at them when they are talking to you, showing that you are interested in what they are saying.
7. Show love by letting them know you believe in them.
Your kids should know that you are FOR them, and on their team. The family is a team that works together and encourages each other, and as a parent you are like the coach– always encouraging them, and believing in them even when they make mistakes. Knowing you believe in them will mean the world to them.
8. Show love by being loyal to them.
Don’t be guilty of telling others about the wrong things your kids have done, and even more important, don’t ever let them hear you saying negative things about them!
Instead, intentionally show your love and loyalty to them by letting them hear you speak positively about them to others. Brag on them to Grandma, or Daddy when they are in the other room and can hear you. Talk about how glad you are go be their mommy. This will speak volumes of love to your child!
What do you regularly do to show your kids you love them? Please share some of your favorite things in the comments!