He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the Lord.” Psalm 113:8
When I read this verse in my Bible today, it made me cringe. When I thought about the word my kids would use to describe me, JOYFUL wasn’t the first thing that came to mind!
Being honest, many times they would more likely use the word stressed, grouchy, or irritable to describe me.
I’m not like that ALL the time. However, those words would probably rate a little higher on the percentage chart than the word JOYFUL. Often I am not a joyful mother.
As I was thinking about this, I had to ask why I wasn’t a joyful mother at times, and identify the things that caused me to lose my joy
3 Things That Make You Lose Your Joy As A Mother:
Usually the people that I let steal my joy are the people that live with me!
As moms, we are with our kids all day every day. Sometimes if we aren’t careful, we can let them steal our joy. It could be something they say, the way they are acting, as well as what they do or don’t do.
The truth is that they are not to blame for my lack of joy. My reactions are to blame.
I really shouldn’t be surprised when my children disobey, have a bad attitude, or don’t want to help. They are born as sinners, and it is my job to train them in Godly character, and help them in those areas.
My reactions to their wrong behavior show what is in my heart. At times it’s selfishness, and it makes me resent the extra time they take, or the fact that they don’t want to help. I have to choose to respond to them with love, and ask God to help me keep a right spirit, and not lose my joy.
It’s so easy to get irritable when things aren’t going well. The dryer quit working; it’s a rainy, gloomy day and we have errands to run; the baby was up part of the night and we are exhausted; etc.
If we let circumstances determine our happiness or joy, we are going to be miserable much of the time!
It’s very easy as homeschooling moms to be very joyful on the days that the kids are all behaving, the school schedule is just moving right along, and things are running smoothly. Being realistic though, not all days are going to be like that. We have to maintain the right spirit despite the circumstances and how things may be going.
As moms, there are so many things we can worry about. We worry about our kids’ safety, their health, their behavior and attitudes, their academic progress, etc. When there is a problem going on with one of them, it is easy to let it consume our minds, and steal our joy. It’s also easy to worry about finances, and how to get everything done that we need to, etc.
I will take these worries to the Lord, but often find myself carrying them again a little later. Other times I will take the worries to God, but “worry” about how I can “help” him. Worry will keep me up at night, and then I am a tired mom in the morning, which leads to even less joy.
This is an area where God has really been working on me. I need to just “let go and let God.”
When I am feeling overwhelmed with worries or burdens, I repeat the verse over in my mind: “Be still and know that I am God.” It’s such a relief to know we can leave our cares, worries, burdens, and needs in God’s hands. I love this quote:
What are the things that keep you from being a joyful mother? Ask God to help you to identify those things, and help you to be filled with His joy.
A Joyful Mother? – Part 2: How does my lack of joy affect my kids?