Are you ever an over-reactive mom, who finds yourself over-reacting to situations with your kids? Perhaps even jumping to conclusions, getting easily frustrated, or just assuming the worst? Sad to say, this is my 33rd year of parenting, and at times I am still an over-reactive mom. And while I’m confessing my ability to over-react, I’ll just add to it that flexibility isn’t my strong point either!
I will spare you the details, but suffice it to say that recently I majorly over-reacted when a change in one of my children’s plans, affected MY own plans. Due to her change of plans, I had to cancel an appointment at the last minute that we had waited for, and we now have to wait again for an open appointment. (To her credit, her work schedule was changed; this wasn’t just HER choice to upset things!)
I was huffing and puffing at her about it, and generally not being very kind outwardly. Inwardly I was trying to find solutions that would let us work around the scheduling conflict. She went to her room to get away from my grumbling, stressed disposition. Then I realized how much I was letting myself get worked up about something that couldn’t be helped, and really WASN’T the end of the world!
I told her I was sorry for getting mad at her, and taking it out on her when she had done nothing wrong. She responded with grace, forgiveness, and chocolate! (She knows the key to defusing my stress!)
Have you been guilty of being an over-reactive mom? Do you struggle with this?
When you find yourself over-reacting STOP AND ASK:
Is this situation really worth getting upset about? Does getting upset help, or would it be better to use that energy to think through solutions?
Then remind yourself that:
1. No matter what, it is NOT right to take it out on the kids!
2. You need to control your emotions and responses.
3. You should apologize, if needed!
4. Your kids are watching your reactions, and will copy them when facing their own stressful situations.
Are you guilty of over-reacting in your parenting? Don’t get discouraged when you do this! Work on it, and when you mess up remember that we will never be perfect parents, and we WILL make mistakes.
It is our mistakes that keep us depending on the Lord, and that’s something we want to always do! Let your mistakes keep you relying on God.