The 3rd reason homeschooling moms may cry is because they have a difficult or prodigal child.
A difficult child can bring the strongest mom to tears. By difficult I mean the child who is different from your others; what works for the other kids doesn’t work for this child. They are high maintenance, and often demanding; learning may come hard for them, and leave you frustrated, as you don’t know how to help them learn.
I had two difficult children, and I remember MANY days when I would cry because they had pushed me all day, couldn’t “get it”, or just because I didn’t know what to do with them! The blessing that came from dealing with them was that it made me depend on God!
I think the hardest part of dealing with that difficult child is that they push us to our limits, and often we respond harshly to them, then we feel guilty, and are full of regret. We determine that it won’t happen again, but it does. After awhile we are at the end of our rope, and feel we are the only one who has a child like this, and who struggles like we do.
Can I assure you that you aren’t the only one with a difficult, challenging child? I meet hundreds of parents at conferences that are struggling with this. The other comforting thing is that we have a God who offers us wisdom. We don’t have to figure it out on our own!
“If any man lack wisdom let him ask of God…..”
There were many, many days when I cried out to God, and asked Him to give me His wisdom. If I didn’t have those difficult children, I wouldn’t have learned to depend on God, and grow in Him like I did.
A rebellious or prodigal child can cause a homeschooling mom to cry.
It hurts when you have spent years pouring God’s truths into your children, and then you watch them turn away from it all. Often, when a child rebels, if as a parent we can work to win their heart back, they will turn around. Other times, however, you may do everything you can and should do as a parent, but they still walk away.
This hurts because you see where they are headed, and the danger that is out there. The most important thing we can do at that point is PRAY for them! Cover them with your prayers for their protection, and trust God to care for them. He loves them even more than us, so we can trust them to His care. (See my ebook Praying Through Proverbs For Your Children.)
It also hurts because you feel like you are responsible, and that you have failed in your parenting. One of the most important things to remember is that God doesn’t measure our success as parents by how our children ultimately choose to respond to our teaching and influence. He measures our success by our obedience to Him! If we have been faithful to teach and train our children according to God’s Word, we have been obedient, and that is the highest success.
If you are struggling with a difficult child, or a rebellious child, seek God’s wisdom. Do all you can to win and keep their heart, train them faithfully, and pray fervently! As I’ve said before “we need to WORK as though it all depends on us, and PRAY as though it all depends on God!” Do your part, and leave the results to God.
If you have a wayward/prodigal child, you will be encouraged by the truths prodigal children teach us, shared in the post WAYWARD CHILDREN.
Parenting is HARD, and homeschooling adds to that challenge. Tears are a normal part of it, and show that we care! If we weren’t passionate there would be no tears over the struggles with our kids. It’s through our tears that we are drawn closer to God’s heart, and that we learn to depend on Him.