There are many factors involved in guiding our kids and helping to keep them pure. The following are things that I feel are VITAL if we want to help our kids stay pure:
1. The Bible must be in their thinking
God’s Word cleanses, and keeps us from sin. When Jesus was tempted by the devil, He responded with Scripture. I mention this often in my posts, but it is something we need to be reminded of often – we need to get our kids into God’s Word, and get His Word into their hearts and minds!
“All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.” II Timothy 3:16
From a young age have them read it, memorize it, and sing it. Use God’s Word for correction, and answers to their problems.
“Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.” Psalm 1:1
We need to teach our kids to separate and stay away from evil, to love what God loves – righteousness, and hate evil as God does.
3. Character Training
Helping our kids develop strong Godly character will help them in many areas of life, and purity is one of them.
Study wisdom vs. foolishness, teach them discernment, obedience, self-control, etc. The ability to say no in other areas will carry over to sexual purity.
Make a commitment to pray daily for your children. Pray Scripture for more power in your prayer. God’s Word is a weapon, and has power our words don’t have.
In closing, I’m going to share the following from the book Passionate Parenting, where Cary Schmidt gives the two great protectors of purity:
There are two things that will serve as great protectors of your child’s purity. Remember them diligently.
The first thing that protects purity is the truth. Kids need the truth in this area. The whole world is screaming lies into their minds all day every day, and those who know the truth are silent. On the DECEPTIVE side of the information flow, there is a constant flood of noise. On the TRUTHFUL side of the information flow there is silence and hesitation. No wonder our teens are destroying their lives sexually.
The second thing that protects purity is approachable parents. What could be more biblical than a seeking teen, desiring God’s truth, approaching a sincere parent who can give a thoughtful, sensitive, unashamed explanation of information that they need to help them resist youthful lusts? It’s a great honor and privilege to be able to instruct your children in such a wonderful marital gift from God.
Decide today to do all you can in these areas to teach and prepare your children. It will involve time, work, and prayer but our kids’ purity is worth it!