As a busy homeschooling mom, with eight kids, there have been MANY times that I have felt like I just wasn’t very spiritual. I also felt like I had NO time to be spiritual!
I went to church, as always, but during the week it was easy to get so caught up in all the daily demands, that at night I would fall into bed exhausted. At that point, I would remember, I never had my quiet time alone with God today!
Then I would hear a sermon about spending time reading your Bible daily, or spending timein prayer, and the guilt would begin. I would start to think that I wasn’t a very good Christian at all, and I was far from being the spiritual person I once was. (before children)
When the pastor preached a sermon about the importance of serving God, and being involved in ministry, I felt like a failure. I was no longer able to be involved in all the ministries that I once loved being part of in church.
After the service, I went to my pastor and mentioned my feelings to him. He very wisely reminded me that taking care of my family and home IS my ministry.
He said, “Don’t you EVER feel like you’re not serving God, when you spend everyday teaching, training, and caring for your family. That is what God has called you to do.” In my heart, I knew that. However, it was good to hear it from him, and have that reinforced in my mind.
It’s so easy to look at how things “used to be” before we had kids. We may have been able to spend an hour a day in Bible reading, prayer, and Bible memory. Time alone with God each morning was the normal thing, a habit that you never missed.
I believe it is still very important as moms to make sure we spend time with God, and in His Word. However, the “alone” part might be a bit more difficult. That’s when it is time to come up with creative ideas to “stay spiritual” throughout the day.
Here are some things that I have done over the years that helped me in this area.
1. Start the day off by singing a Scripture song with the kids before you eat breakfast.
This was SO helpful for me! I don’t always wake up fast, and definitely not in a cheerful mood. Kids, on the other hand, are wide awake and ready to go! Singing a Scripture song helps my spirit, and prepares me for the day. It also continues to help throughout the day, as the words of the song go through my mind. One day I was in a grumbly mood when doing the dishes, and the song came to mind that we had just sung a couple hours before: “In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God.” It’s hard to keep a bad attitude with those words running through your mind!
2. Have Bible time right after breakfast.
We will read a few verses or a chapter together, and talk briefly about what it means and how to appy it to our lives. I need this time to get some of God’s Word into my heart and mind for the day, and by doing this with the kids every day, it’s showing them that this is something important. We also have a short time of prayer to ask God’s wisdom and help for that day. After this, I always have my older kids go to their rooms or a quiet place, and have their own quiet time with the Lord. This is a habit I want them to develop, and make a top priority in their lives.
3. Use God’s Word to discipline and correct your children throughout the day.
It’s so easy to get frustrated when our children are having bad attitudes, or showing wrong behavior. We look at it as an interruption, as we are busy trying to get through the school lessons for the day. Instead of looking at it as interruption though, we should look at it as an opportunity! It’s a chance for us take them to God’s Word, and show them what God says about that behavior, and give them Bible answers to their struggles. It’s important to approach this with the right spirit. You don’t want your kids to come to dislike the Bible, because you’re always “hitting them over the head with it.”
We approached it with the words “We know how much you love God, and want to please Him. When you acted like that (or did/said that), God wasn’t pleased. Let’s go to His Word, and see what He says that will help you.” Then be sure and pray with them about it afterwards, and encourage them that with God’s help they can do better.
There are 2 benefits to disciplining with Scripture. One is the benefit to you, as you are continually exposed to God’s Word throughout the day. If you have been blessed with a difficult child, just think HOW many times a day you get to go to God’s Word!! Secondly, it keeps you calm in your discipline when you approach it this way. It’s hard to stay angry when you are talking to your kids about pleasing God, and reading the Bible to/with them!
Now if you’re like me, and struggle with your memory, maybe you’re wondering how you will ever come up with the right verses every time you need them. I put together “Training and Correcting the Heart With Scripture” for this very reason! It makes it easy for me to always be able to use Scripture, and not respond with the usual scolding, or my own “words of wisdom”.
God’s Word has so much more power than our words, and I have seen how effective it is when I use it with the kids. The difficult children especially seem to respond well, and I will notice their countenance soften, and their eyes fill with tears, as God’s word brings conviction.
4. Listen to good music throughout the day.
Having hymns and Godly music playing does so much for your spirit, and will help you feel closer to God. I have found that even playing Patch the Pirate CDds for the kids helps me! The music on them is very uplifting, and helps me to keep a song in my heart.
Another thing I’ve done with music, is have a little “praise time” with the kids. I may not have time to spend alone praising God daily, but I can have a time with the kids where we sing praise on their level. We sing little choruses like: “My God is so big, so strong, and so mighty”, “I Love You Lord”, and “Praise Him, praise Him, all ye little children”. It’s amazing what singing these little songs of praise will do for you, as you focus on God’s greatness!
These are just a few of the things that have helped me keep my mind a little more focused on the Lord throughout the busy, hectic days. Don’t despair if you find it difficult to have a “quiet time ALONE” with God. Take advantage of the opportunities you have during the day with your kids, to include God and His word, and you will be surprised at how it will make you feel closer to God daily!