Creating a God-centered home is something that we should strive for as parents. Where do husbands and wives start? What does a God-centered home look like? Every family will have a different approach, but here are some tips on how to create a God-centered home.
1. Establish Family Roles
The Bible gives us advice and commandments on how the family should be established:
- Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; Ephesians 5:25.
- Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing
- My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother. Proverbs 1:8
Husbands, wives, and children each play a vital role within the family.
- Husbands need to be the leader of the household by providing and showing guidance to his wife and children.
- Wives need to trust their husband’s decisions and teach their children to love God.
- Children need to honor their parents, accept their guidance, and be obedient.
By establishing roles, each family member understands what is expected of them, and family members can help each other by reminding them of their position within the family.
2. Be a Godly Influence
A child’s most influential role model is their parents. Mothers and fathers can make a dramatic influence on their children based on how they respond to challenges and events within their daily life.
As parents, we must strive to daily set a good example for our kids, by how we live. No matter what we may teach our kids, or say to them, they are going to become what we are! If we want them to be kind, we need to be kind. If we want them to love God, they’ve got to see that we love God, and want to obey Him.
Our kids do what we DO more than they do what we SAY. (Related: Like Father Like Son)
In striving to have a God-centered home, we must remember that our actions and words show our kids what is really important to us. Every thing we say or do influences them and their character.
When you allow wrong behavior to go uncorrected, or you set a bad example by your actions, you are inadvertently training them in negative character.
3. Spend Time Together
Dedicate one day during the week to do an activity together as a family. We had a weekly family night for this purpose.
Having a wide range of ages with our 8 kids, sometimes it was challenging to find something that everyone enjoyed, but the kids enjoyed just having time together weekly even if the activity we chose wasn’t one of their favorites. It was something they looked forward to, and the fun times together created a strong family bond.
Some simple ideas are playing games, baking, going to the park, or playing kick ball in the back yard. Once in awhile you can go out for ice cream as a family, or make root beer floats at home.
This is a great way to keep communication open with your kids and the relationship strong, so you can win or keep their hearts thus opening the door to greater influence as you point them to God and His Word.
4. Read the Bible Daily
Spend a few minutes daily reading some Scriptures with your children. If possible start your day with a Bible time right after breakfast, before the day gets busy. This shows your children that God’s Word is important, and reading it is a priority. It also will help them to later develop the habit of reading God’s Word on their own daily.
The key is to make it short, and keep their interest. Maybe read a few verses from Proverbs, and then ask questions about it, and help them apply it to their own lives.
Another thing you can do to keep your home God-centered, is use Scripture to correct and train your children’s hearts. When they show wrong behavior it is an OPPORTUNITY to take them to God’s Word and show them Biblical answers to their struggles or needs.
RELATED: TRAINING KIDS’ HEARTS WITH SCRIPTURE
5. Pray Together
Of course, you should pray before meals and thank God for His provision. But that shouldn’t be the only time your kids hear your pray, or the only time that they pray.
Start your day by praying with them, asking God to bless and guide each of you throughout the day, bringing their needs to Him, and praising Him for His blessings.
When your kids are struggling or discouraged, take the time to pray with them about it. This teaches your children that no problem is too small for God, and we can (and should) go to Him with all of our needs. Praying together is one of the ways that we can teach our children how to pray.
When God answers prayers for you, make sure you tell your kids about it. Your excitement about praying will give them more of an excitement about it.
6. Create a Godly Atmosphere
Center your home around your family and your faith by displaying family pictures as well as Scripture. Having Scripture verses on your walls keeps God’s Word before you and your kids as they spend time in the home. It is also a testimony to all who enter your home, and reveals that God’s Word is important to you.
Creating a God-centered home really shouldn’t be hard, but it does require that you be intentional in keeping God and His Word first. Which of these ideas can you begin doing today to help keep Christ at the center of your home?
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