Recently I was visiting with a lady from church. As we were talking she made the comment, “You’re such a good mom.” Wow! I didn’t know what to say.
Often, I feel like I’m not a very good mother at all. But I sure do want to be the best I can be! We only have one chance to teach and train our kids, so we need to do our best.
What is it that will make us better mothers?
Is it trying to do all the special fun things others do with their kids? Or is it giving our children lots of toys and clothes?
If so, some of us would be unable to give as much or do as much, depending on our circumstances. That’s why it’s bad to judge ourselves as moms in comparison with other moms.
Instead, we need to do what will help us develop and grow as mothers.
Here are some things that will help each of us to be the best moms we can be:
1. Seek God’s help and wisdom.
Raising children is a tremendous responsibility. We need to pray for wisdom.
Many times a day I stop to ask God for wisdom in dealing with the situations that arise. At times I’m just at a loss as to how to deal with the kids and as I pray, God will bring to mind a verse, or the words I need to say. Later I marvel, knowing I couldn’t have thought of that answer myself!
We also need to read God’s Word if we want to train our kids in God’s ways. I have found the book of Proverbs to be especially helpful, as it is the book of wisdom.
I am always looking for books that will encourage me and challenge me to do what’s right; books that stress the importance of discipline; books that remind me of what a special job God has given me; books that give me ideas.
It’s easy to get tired and discouraged after days of endless discipline, diapers, etc. I need books that remind me of what God says is necessary and that motivate me to ‘keep on!’
Many moms say, “Well, I just don’t have time to ready anymore.” I don’t have time either, but I make it. I squeeze it in whenever I can.
3. Listen to CDs or podcasts about being a good mother.
Again, the positive reinforcement we receive from these can be an inspiration to us to strive to be our best. (You can listen to quite a few CDs if you get in the habit of taking them with you whenever you drive somewhere.)
4. Let an older mom mentor you.
Find a mom who has finished raising her family, and ask her if you can “pick her brain.” Ask her questions as needed, and glean from her wisdom and years of experience.
5. Stay faithful to obey God’s charge to bring your kids up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
It is easy to get discouraged when we don’t see the character training working, or we just aren’t seeing the results we think we should based on our efforts.
You won’t see many of the results you are hoping to see in your kids until you have been faithful teaching and training for awhile. Don’t judge your success by what you see, but rather by the seeds you faithfully planted.
Ask God to give you the help you need to be the best mom you can be!
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