Recently I was talking to a mom who had several children. She commented on how the kids were driving her crazy that day, and asked if I had ever dealt with that when my kids were younger. I laughed, and told her that I remember having quite a few days like that!
She then asked me what I did when I had “one of those days”. I shared with her this article that I wrote back when my kids were young.
We’ve all had “those” days.
I haven’t figured out yet whether it’s what I fed them that morning, or whether it’s just me, but some days I wonder where I can go to turn in my resignation as a mother!
Well, since I don’t REALLY want to resign as a mother, I decided that I had better come up with a way to handle “those” kind of days, and keep my sanity at the same time.
It seems that they are always their worst on the days when I am really busy trying to get a lot done. I found that when the kids are aggravating me a lot or seem to be unusually bad, the best thing I can do is drop what I’m doing and give them some attention.
Often all they need is a little attention, and then they are fine.
Here are some of the things that I have done to help with this:
1. Have a snack time.
My kids get excited about having a snack of raisins, cheese and crackers, fruit, etc. Sit and talk to them while they eat and usually they’ll be ready to go and play nicely when they’re done.
2. Go outside for a walk.
The fresh air is good for them, and helps them use up some of that boundless energy. Walking also relieves some of your stress!
3. Read to them.
Let them choose one or two of their favorite books for you to read to them. Then tell them that if they will play quietly while you finish (fill in the blank), you’ll read them another one when you are done.
4. Play with them.
Often they are just bored and a few minutes of playing with Mom will give them ideas of what they can do.
5. Love them.
Sometimes I just rock the younger ones for a few minutes, and hug them and tell them “I love you.”
6. Sing with them.
They will enjoy this, and it also helps your attitude improve.
7. Go for a ride.
All kids love to go ‘bye-bye.’
8. Do exercises.
I try to exercise everyday, and doing it with the kids makes it a lot more fun. (Or should I say FUNNY?!)
9. Get out some special toys that they aren’t allowed to have all the time.
This could be things like puzzles, play dough, crayons, etc.
10. Let them help you with what you’re doing.
Let them help fold clothes, or “clean” the refrigerator, etc. It makes them feel important to be able to help, and kids love cleaning with Mom.
You may be surprised at what they are capable of doing to help you with household chores.
If all of these fail, forget about what you’re doing and give them all the time they need. Your kids are more important than anything!