In my post, Keeping Our Kids Pure, I talked about teaching our kids WHY they should keep themselves pure. Now I’d like to share things to teach your kids about purity from the time they are young, to help keep them pure in mind and body.
1. PHYSICAL PURITY IN RELATIONSHIPS
We need to start teaching our kids from a young age the importance of not touching/no physical contact with the opposite gender. Teach them that other than hugging and kissing their parents, they should save their hugs and kisses for the person they are going to marry. Those are privileges of marriage and reserved for your spouse.
“It is impossible to maintain a pure mind without maintaining a high standard of physical restraint. In USA Today – 85% of single 17 year-olds admitted to having already lost their purity. If Christian young people insist on following the dating standards of the world, then they will live with the results of those standards. On the other hand, 100% of young people who institute a personal no-touch rule and enfore it arrive at the marriage altar morally pure. 100%! – 7 Royal Laws of Courtship
2. EMOTIONAL PURITY IN RELATIONSHIPS
Parents should start planting little seeds when their kids are young. For example, “A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is a special relationship to save for the one you marry.” Mention often that He has a special person for them, and encourage them to save their heart for that person. As they get a little older, encourage them to be emotionally faithful to their future spouse by saving their emotions for that person.
“I saw that I had been involved in the dating scene for purely selfish reasons, without at all considering my future husband or my boyfriends’ future wives. By flirting and spending time with boys, and thus drawing their attention and affections to me, I was actually giving away something meant only for my husband. I had upheld a commitment to abstinence, but I had not understood true purity. I began to see that true purity was rooted in the heart; it meant that every thought, attitude, or emotion I allowed in must be honoring to my future husband and pleasing to God.” -Leslie Ludy
It is very important that you start teaching both aspects of purity in relationships when your kids are young. You want them to understand this before emotional attachments or physical involvement take place.
3. Purity in dress
We need to teach our daughter to dress modestly, so as not to cause young men to have impure thoughts.
“Parents need to screen their children’s clothing. Men are responsible to help their wives and daughters understand why this is so important.” – The Purity Principle
Along with this we need to teach our boys to turn their gaze away when they see inappropriate things. We taught our kids that they couldn’t always control what came into their sight. They can, however, look away rather than continue to gaze, or look back at it again.
4. Purity of Mind
We need to guard what goes into our children’s minds through their eyes and ears. The battle for purity is fought in our minds, and what we are taking into our brains. What’s in our brains is what we allow in through our senses. Images and words will be in our minds from what we see and hear.
Be aware of what your kids are watching on TV, what they are doing on the internet, and what they are reading. Set safeguards and boundaries, and give lots of instruction in this area.
Parents, the battle is real. It will take time and effort to teach your children, and monitor things, but protecting their purity is worth it!