What are some reasons homeschooling moms lose their joy?
Often without being aware that it is even happening, one day we realize that we no longer are excited about teaching our kids, and we look at it as a drudgery. What are the most common causes for this?
SIX REASONS HOMESCHOOLING MOMS LOSE THEIR JOY:
Do you often find yourself staying up late to get “a little work” done, and maybe even getting up early to get some quiet time while the kids are still sleeping? When you burn the candle on both ends like this for very long, it WILL catch you.
Nothing steals my joy faster than being exhausted. At that point everything seems overwhelming to me, and worse than it really is.
Simple solution? Guard your sleep! Make it a priority to get the rest you need.
2. UNCONTROLLED CHILDREN
When children won’t obey, or are in the habit of complaining and arguing, it makes for an unpleasant atmosphere in the home for not just Mom, but everyone.
When you find that you are often mad and upset because of the kids’ behavior, take a break from your normal routine and work on the character issues – especially obedience!
Any attempts to teach skills and content without first addressing obedience will meet with frustration. You can’t teach your kids to read or do anything else if they won’t obey you, so this is TOP priority.
“Your child must learn to obey, first and foremost, or you can never serve as his teacher. Teaching him to obey, to do his work and stick with it, to follow instructions, not to interrupt, and much more requires your diligent supervision and follow-through. Unless your children learn to listen to your directions and follow them, it doesn’t matter how fabulous your resources are. The first and foremost subject to teach is good behavior born of self-discipline. “ (In other words, teach them character!)
Use God’s Word to correct and train their heart. His Word has power that our words don’t have, and our focus should be on the character issue of their heart, not their behavior.
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A house with young kids or many kids will never stay clean for long, and as homeschooling moms we have our kids at home ALL day. There will, and should be signs that kids live there – such as toys and books.
However, by decluttering regularly, having a place for everything, and regularly having kids help pick up or put things back, your home should stay fairly organized.
Another valuable part of keeping things organized is having a daily routine in the home. If you’re daily accomplishing your priorities, you will have more peace and joy at the end of your day.
Often we let the circumstances of the day determine our schedule, then we feel frustrated and stressed at the end of the day. Be sure to have a routine to guide your days and keep you on track.
I don’t think I need to say more here. We all know that sometimes our hormones can make us irritable, and weepy.
I wrote a series of posts on hormone imbalance that talks about the effect our hormones can have on us, and some ways to combat the problems hormones can bring. (Homeschooling & Hormones)
Comparison is the thief of joy!
Don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to other moms. Each of us have different circumstances, and God doesn’t call every homeschooling family to the same thing.
Ask God what He wants for YOUR family, and be the mom God called YOU to be.
6. UNMET EXPECTATIONS
BLESSED IS SHE WHO EXPECTS NOTHING, FOR SHE SHALL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED.
When we have expectations of what our kids should do or be, or what our husband should or shouldn’t do, we set ourselves up to be disappointed. Give your expectations to God!
What is the reason you have lost your homeschooling joy, Mom? Find the cause, then work on a solution. God wants us to be joyful mothers!