For me one of the biggest challenges of being a wife, mother, and teacher in our home school, is to not be TOO busy. Finding BALANCE, keeping focused on the priorities, and keeping them at the top of my daily list requires constant effort. It’s so easy to miss the signs that you’re too busy with things that don’t matter or are even GOOD things, and let them replace the most important things.
How do I know when I have allowed too much busyness? There are always tell-tale signs when I’m too busy! Perhaps you can relate to them:
1. Neglecting time with God.
Jeremiah 2:32 Yet my people have forgotten me days without number.
2. Neglecting your priorities.
When you find that your priorities are often being pushed aside for other activities, it’s time to re-evaluate.
3. Neglecting your spouse.
The relationship with your spouse is the most important one, after your relationship with God. It’s important to be purposeful in nurturing your marriage.
4. Neglecting your family.
Do you find yourself just rushing through the things that you “have” to do with or for your family ? Are you too busy online or without outside activities to be available for them? When you find yourself feeling resentment about serving your family, you are too busy.
5. Neglecting care of your house.
I will be the first to say that this isn’t my top priority, and certainly wasn’t when I had lots of little ones running around. However, it is important to at least make time for regular maintenance cleaning, and keeping things picked up. (Enlist the help of your kids!)
6. Neglecting time for rest.
It is never okay to go for long periods of time with too little sleep, if you can avoid it. Sometimes we have an extra full schedule that may cause us to have a bit less sleep for a few days, or maybe sick kids that are keeping us up at night. But sleep is essential! You need it for your health, as well as your spirit. You may get away with skimping on it for awhile, but it WILL catch up with you.
7. Neglecting self-care, and self-renewal.
Just as important as sleep is taking time for self-care, and self-renewal. You can’t give and serve without taking time to refill your well. You will run dry.
What should you do when you realize you are too buy and are neglecting some of these areas?
Ask God to :
- Give you wisdom to know what matters
- Show you what can be left undone
- Give you self-discipline to keep your God given priorities in place
Be aware of these signs that you’re too busy, and regularly check to make sure you are being faithful in the areas that matter, and not letting busyness distract you from your priorities.