Does a mom ever get over the tears that come with saying goodbye to one of their children, as they move on in life? I don’t think so!! Today has been an emotional day for me, as I said goodbye to yet another daughter, and left her in the care of her new husband.
Anna and Mike actually got married back in July when he had a short leave from his training in the Navy. After a nine-day honeymoon, he had to go back to his training in Texas. She returned back to our home to wait till he finished his training and was stationed. Yes, I cried happy tears that day, but I didn’t really have to say goodbye to her at the time, nor did I need to wonder how she was getting along in her role as a wife.
A few weeks ago he got his orders, and found he would be moving to Virginia, where Anna could finally join him. He got there last week, and got things in order for their housing. Yesterday, with my van loaded with all her belongings, including her little dog Remi, I drove her to their new home. We had a good time on the drive, and I was glad that we were able to enjoy chatting, laughing, and listening to Christmas music as we drove. (YES – she informed me that she wanted to listen to Christmas music – her favorite!) Oh, I almost forget to mention the snacks that we definitely enjoyed. All trips with daughters require chocolate snacks!
When we got there, Mike unloaded the van, and I helped Anna get most of her kitchen things put away. It was fun to see her getting her new kitchen organized, and start to get things settled in their new home. She had been waiting for this day for awhile!
This morning I said goodbye to Mike and Anna, then got in the empty van, and headed towards home. As I hugged them, I told Mike to take good care of her. You see, with that goodbye came the realization that she is now in his care. It is now his job to protect her, cherish her, and lead her. As I drove tears came to my eyes, and I began to pray through my tears.
I asked God to:
*Provide for them
*Give them His power to love as they should
*Grow then through the hard times that they will inevitably face at one time or another
*Help Mike to have the wisdom He needs to lovingly lead Anna, and to love her as He should
*Help Anna to be the wife that Mike needs her to be, and to be his biggest encourager
*Help ME to remember that they are in HIS care, and to trust Him.
*Help me encourage and support them, but never interfere.
*Enable me to let go of my concerns about whether I did everything I should/could to prepare Anna to be the wife that God wants her to be.
It’s so easy for me to look back and think maybe I didn’t prepare her in certain areas like I should have. As I thought about this, God reminded me that I was obedient to Him as I raised the kids, and faithful in teaching them and training them in His Word. I did everything I could. The rest is now up to HIM. I actually LOVE that! God loves them so much more than I ever could, and wants to bless them. They are SAFE in HIS care.
Moms, it’s okay to cry when our kids go through seasons of change, whether it’s moving away to college, or getting married. In fact, it’s NORMAL! However, the best thing you can do is cry out to God for your kids, through your tears!
Lord, as a mother, let me never stop praying diligently for my children!