The Lord has blessed my husband and me with eight children. When the kids were younger, and we went places as a family, we would see heads turning as they mentally counted, “1,2,3…” We also got lots of comments like, “Are they ALL yours?!” Often people would say to me, “You must have a lot of patience.” The truth is that I’ve run out of patience with those types of comments. The world looks at people with large families and says, “You’re crazy!” But God says children are a heritage and reward.
According to the Bible, children are a blessing or gift from the Lord. The world is telling us many myths about large families.
Here are some of the common myths I have heard often:
1. You can’t afford to have a large family today.
The Bible tells us that God will supply all our needs. Many times people who say this really mean they can’t have a large family AND the high standard of living they desire. God says, “And having food and raiment, let us be content.” We found it was a huge blessing to see God supply our needs, and also to have to trust Him for those needs. Our kids have seen God supply, and have learned to trust Him as a result. Maybe we can’t afford the best of everything, but we feel blessed to have eight gifts from the Lord.
2. My kids drive me crazy! I can’t get everything done!
Usually the folks saying this are giving away the fact that they aren’t disciplining their children, and they are too busy with themselves! Yes, my kids drive me crazy sometimes too, but I’ve found over the years that has usually been the case when I’m too busy doing what I want to get done, and I resent being bothered. Other times it’s because I’ve slacked off on discipline, and am not requiring instant obedience.
I always enjoyed going out to eat when the kids were younger. We got a log of stares due to our large group, but often as we were leaving, we heard comments like, “Your kids are so well behaved!” People aren’t used to seeing kids that mind are pleasant to be around. Therefore, they believe several kids would drive you crazy!
As for, “How do you get everything done?”, the world looks at children and sees WORK. Yes, much work is involved. But, I see them as helpers! If you train your kids to help, you are able to manage things easier, and they learn character. You’re also training them to work for the Lord!
3. I get so bored, and feel unfulfilled just being a mother.
I remember when a young lady from church told me that when she had children she planned to stay home with them, and quit working. In response to that, a friend had told her, “You’ll stay home for awhile, but then you’ll get bored!” Well, that’s true IF you feel that raising kids isn’t serving God, and isn’t of eternal value. And yes, you may feel ‘unfulfilled” IF you expect to accomplish all your goals.
Here’s God’s answer. Get excited about molding and training Godly children! What an opportunity and what a challenge! Do all you can to learn how to train your kids in God’s way. Rather than being ‘bored”, you’ll find that you are growing as you look to God for help and wisdom, and as you die to self to meet the needs of those children.
All of these myths stem from the idea that children are a bother, not a blessing. As Christian parents may we replace that worldly attitude with the idea that what we’re doing is a Godly investment. The Bible says we will reap what we sow. We are sowing to reap men and women who will be spiritual warriors and give their lives to serve God. What a blessed privilege!