One of the MOST important things we can do when raising our kids is train them in character. Character training should be purposeful, but sometimes it happens when we aren’t being intentional.
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What are some of the ways our kids learn character?
1. Our kids learn character by example or social exposure.
- Parental Example
As parents, we must strive to daily set a good example for our kids, by how we live. No matter what we may teach our kids, or say to them, they are going to become what we are!
If we want them to be kind, we need to be kind. If we want them to love God, they’ve got to see that we love God, and want to obey Him.
(My post, The Powerful Influence Of a Father, has some great truths about this.)
I love this statement by Clay Clarkson:
Our actions and words reveal to our kids what is really important to us. It is important to always be aware that our words and actions are influencing our kids and their character.
When you allow wrong behavior to go uncorrected, or you set a bad example by your actions, you are inadvertently training them in negative character.
- Godly Role Models
Not only should we set a good example as parents, but we should also give our children Godly role models to look up to.
Get them around people who are going to encourage them in the things that you are teaching them, and that set an example of good character and Godliness.
- Protection From Wrong Influences
You need to guard against the wrong influences that will undermine the positive examples or influences. Carefully think through who or what you are allowing to be an influence on your kids.
- Be careful who you allow to watch your kids.
- Be aware of who your kids are friends with.
- Do you know what your kids are watching on TV?
- What kind of books are your kids reading?
Be sure to stay vigilant about what or who is having an influence on your kids!
2. Our kids learn character through correction, training, and discipline.
When I look back on the last 37 years of being a parent, I have to say that I didn’t always view wrong behavior the right way!
Many times I would get frustrated or irritated when I had to stop what I was doing to go and correct a child.
To me, it was an interruption in the day.
Thankfully, God opened my eyes to the incorrect view I had of wrong behavior in the kids.
He helped me realize that every time my kids showed a wrong attitude, wrong actions, or wrong responses, it was an OPPORTUNITY for me to train them in Godly behavior and character.
Our ATTITUDE should be: “How can I correct and train them in this situation to draw them back into a right relationship with Jesus?”
Or “What do I need to teach them so they understand why this behavior is not acceptable?”
It should not be an attitude of “I’m going to change their behavior so they quit embarrassing me, or so they quit frustrating me.”
Our RESPONSE should be: “I know that you are trying to do right, and you want to please Jesus. When you acted like that/said that/did that, it didn’t please Him.”
Our TOOL should be: God’s Word! “Let’s go to God’s Word, and see what He says about the heart issue that is causing that behavior.”
Or, “Let’s go to the Bible, and find answers to help you in this area.”
If we want our kids to be like Jesus (which is what Godly character is), we need to use God’s Word as our guide to training and correction.
I know it is easy to get frustrated on days where it seems like ALL you do is correct, train, and discipline.
When you feel like that, take a deep breath, and thank God for another opportunity to train your kids in Godly character.
3. Our kids learn character through positive, constructive teaching.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that our kids will learn character just because it’s important to us, and they live in our home. Maybe we even think they will learn some character at church.
However, the bottom line is that it is our job and privilege as parents to train our children to be like Christ. We need to be purposeful in our parenting!
Often, we have many good intentions about things we hope to do with our kids, or things we would like to teach them.
However, I have found that many of my good intentions were never put to action, because I failed to make a PLAN, as to when and how I would make it happen.
How are you being intentional about training your kids in character?
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