Recently I found myself getting irritated with my husband over a couple of little things. I allowed myself to dwell on those things, which fed the irritation that I was already feeling towards him. We have been married for 36 years now, and though I have learned the secret to overcoming those growing feelings of irritation, I don’t always put the secret into practice as soon as I should!
A few weeks ago when I was focusing in a negative way on the things that were irritating me, the Lord quietly reminded me that I should pray for my husband. As I prayed I asked God to protect him on the job, and keep him from injury as he worked. Then I began to thank God for a husband who works SO hard every day, and has for 36 years, to take care of and provide for me and our family! That led me to thank God for his faithfulness to me over the years, his strong work ethic, his faithfulness to God and serving Him. One thing led to another as I thanked God for various qualities that I appreciated about my husband. Before long, all thoughts of irritation had vanished away. I suddenly felt a new sense of gratitude for him, and realized just how blessed I really was to have a husband like mine!
It’s a simple solution, but it WORKS! When you find yourself getting frustrated with your spouse, stop and pray for him. It’s hard to stay upset at someone when you are praying for them! Then change your prayer to one of thanks for all the GOOD things that made you fall in love with him in the first place. Bringing our thoughts captive, and replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, changes our attitude and outlook.
Why stay unhappy and irritated? Go to God, and He will change your heart!